5 Lies You Should Stop Telling Yourself
By TOI Staff August 28, 2023 Update on : September 18, 2023
Positive self-talk is vital for your mental health as well as your personal growth. So if you want to succeed in life, you should stop telling yourself things that diminish your worth. Instead, you should focus on positivity and change your mindset.
Here is the list of lies you should stop telling yourself today to make good things happen.
I’m Not Good Enough
Have you ever told yourself things like these: I’m not good enough to get this job, I’m not good enough to get promoted, or I’m not good enough to ask this pretty girl for a date? You should never tell these lies to yourself again. You are good enough to have a happy life. You are good enough to build a successful career. You are good enough to date any person you find attractive.
Try to figure out – on your own or with a therapist’s help– what makes you believe that you are “not good enough”. Did your parents or teachers probably tell you this phrase when you were a child? If this is the case, find a way to deal with your childhood trauma and start a new chapter in your life.
I’ll Never Meet the Love of My Life
Your previous relationship failed, and now you think that you will be single forever. All your friends are dating someone and look happy, and it makes things even worse: it makes you believe that you will never fall in love again.
This is one of the biggest lies you should stop telling yourself. Sooner or later, you will find the right person to share your life with. If you want to meet your soulmate sooner, open up your heart and make space for a new relationship. Download the dating app and try your luck – and who knows, maybe your soulmate is just one tap away.
Everyone Hates Me
This statement can’t be true. Well, you probably have an enemy or two (or none). But it’s highly unlikely that “everyone hates you”. Why? Because most people don’t really care about others. If someone is rude to you, it doesn’t mean they hate you. The chances are they are going through tough times in life, and their behavior reflects their own problems.
And remember that you have at least one person who loves you (think of your mom or sibling). So it will be wise of you to replace the statement “everyone hates me” with “I’m loved” to attract positivity to your life.
I Can’t Do It
Whatever your age is, you can master new skills: learn a foreign language, run a marathon, or start playing guitar. Well, it may take you more time than you expect, but you can do it. Don’t let the fear of failure prevent you from learning something new. Set the goal and be persistent: make little steps toward your goal daily and your dedication will yield results.
I Don’t Have Time for It
Everyone has 24 hours in a day, no more, no less. But all people use this time differently. Do you feel like you don’t have time to start exercising, read a book, or take online classes? You are lying to yourself. It’s not about time. It’s about your priorities.
If you truly want to start exercising and lose some weight, you can find 20 minutes a day for it. For example, you can wake up 20 minutes earlier than you usually do, or you can do some burpees while your morning coffee is brewing. Remember that you do have time for important things, and you just need to manage your time wisely.
There might be other lies you are telling yourself. Try to define and analyze those negative statements that live in your head.
Remember that once you change your mindset, your life will change. You will become a happier person and accomplish any goal you set.Read more: 5 Lies You Should Stop Telling Yourself